Dear Carolyn: My sisters husband confessed to an online affair and apparently is going through a major midlife crisis. My poor sister is of course stressed and worried, although they are doing marriage counseling and he is also doing counseling himself (I think).
The problem is we (my mom and I, were a very close-knit bunch) now hate this guys guts. We were never crazy about him hes selfish, rude, etc. but tolerated him because he made my sister happy. Now hes not even doing that.
So if they stay together, whats the best way to deal with him? Because its going to be really hard to deal with him after all of this. Hate His Guts
Why?
Im not being facetious. He was a selfish rude jerk who made your sister happy, and he has since become a selfish rude jerk who makes your sister stressed and worried. If they stay together, then presumably he will be returning to his role as a selfish rude jerk who makes her happy, or at least happy enough for her not to leave.
Which means you can go back to your original modus operandi: putting up with him because hes part of your sisters package deal.
It would be lousy, but it wouldnt be new.
Heres hoping this mess wakes her up or the counseling gets through to him.
